Sean M

What comes next?

So in recent weeks being a senior with only four classes left finish up my degree I've had a lot of time on my hands to watch television and contemplate my future.  While watching the television show One Tree Hill one of the main characters began working on a documentary asking the question to his friends "What comes next?".   With all of the remaining cast members being in different positions in their life, the answers and the actions they took showed that taking that next step after being in a position that we became so familiar with is hard and difficult. 

As a senior with only so many weeks remaining of being a student, we hear that same question from our parents, friends and teachers of what comes next for us.  That question not only ecompasses a career decision, but also a whole lifestyle change.  For the last 21 years of my life, I've been "a kid" always being able to use that excuse so to speak for not having to make the difficult decisions that an adult has to make.  Unfortunately, when I receive that dipolma in May I lose the security blank I've carried around for my whole life.  I've often wondered when looking at my older cousins and even my parents, when is it that you become an adult; when you feel like you're capable of making these decisions?  When do you stop feeling like you're still in high school and that you're ready for the real world.

The more I sit and analyze those questions the more I begin to think that maybe there is no one singular moment that is uniform for everyone in terms of the changing of the guard.  Maybe it's a good thing that some of us stay kids a little bit longer than others.  With that said maybe that's the best way to the question of what comes next; through the eyes of a kid. When we're young we have imagination and dream of becoming anything we want.  While Sacred Heart University has provided me a lot I still think astronaut and President of the United States are out of the question, but there is still so much that we can choose to take on.  I feel like sometimes, especially as seniors, we pigeon hole ourselves into thinking "these" are the only options we have and "this" is all we can do.  The truth is right now is the one time in our lives that we have the ability to reach for something higher and think outside the box of what comes next for us. 

I guess before I sign off my message to everyone reading this is to think big when trying to answer what comes next.  Don't settle, we're too young still to settle.  Reach dream imagine and work for it because I'm still a believer in the theory that if you work hard enough you can achieve whatever you want.  Remember life isn't a destination, it's a journey and that's the beauty of life

The Last Moment

Well Second semester has officially started and its the last run of being young for all of us seniors.  This is the time that all of the everyday activities we take part are referred to with the phrase "The last time I'll ever" placed infront of them.  While sad and depressing, it's also the chance to start to pave the way for our new path that we'll embark on after May 15th. 

For some of us Grad School has become an appealing option in order to further our education while the wait for the job market turn around continues.  For others we face the uneviable task of jumping in to the job hunt pool and securing ourselves a paying job.  The fear associated with this could rival evne the scarriest horror movies.  Luckily though here at Sacred Heart University, we have an amazing Career Development Center with awesome counselors who are willing to help lay the ground work so the path to this career is a little bit easier to travel upon. 

As for me I currently fall into the second of the two options above.  Come May 16th I'll be an unemployed college kid looking for a job.  I've majored in Sports Management and minored in Economics but I'm not sure what I want to do with that degree.  I believe my strengths fall in my interaction with individuals as well as my writing skills. Hopefully I'll be able to find something that can combine these skills and parlay them into not only money but a job that is meaningful and exciting.  Check back to see how my meeting with Career Development goes.  Until next time remember.

 

"The Journey is the Destination"

Heartbreak and Growth

Hello All-

For many this blog is a useful tool and used as an insight as to the typical life of a college student at Sacred Heart University.  However tonight I'm going to turn to the tables and use all of you.  So bare with me as this might not be as eloquently written as most of my blogs. 

Life and love seem to go hand in hand.  As children we love our mommys and daddys our stuff animals and our preschool play friends.  When we get older we grow into that puppy love stage of high school where we think that the first person who holds our hand or kisses us is going to be the we'll be with forever.  Then as adults we face the toughest challenge love throws at us, "real love".  I say real love because this is the type of relationship where we care so deeply about another person that the lines between us and them become blurred.  You experience the ups and downs of a relationship and all the while grow not only to love the person for who they are but also love them for all the areas they fall short in. 

When that love goes away and that person leaves, you're left with a void in your heart, a place where you can feel the darkness and despair and the thought of the pain and emptiness that will linger for weeks, months years etc, overwhelm you to the point where you can't even breath anymore.  That's the pain I'm currently dealing with, and trying to balance that feeling of loneliness and utter loss with accomplishing work and putting on a brave face is one of the toughest life challenges any of us will ever face. 

I wonder what the right next step is?  Is it to cry and let out everything that's inside?  Is it to put it aside and try to fill that void with meaningless tasks? Kahlil Gibran once wrote; 'You're reason and your passion are the rudder.. and the sails of your seafaring soul. If either be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas."  How do you get by when the passion and the light of your life has been put out?  That my friends is the challenge of life that no school lesson can teach you. 

The Little Moments

The Little Moments

First off it feels nice to write my first blog in three years and be able to reflect upon how much I've grown and changed since I entered Sacred Heart University.  Its funny to see what topics I found important enough to cast out upon all of you who view these blogs.  I think being able to write three years removed from freshman you is an amazingly lucky thing, and I know I personally will love to be able to look back at the end of this year and compare my freshman to senior year.

 

Anyways, the main reason I was posting my first blog was because of the inspiration I had to write after this weekend.  On Saturday many seniors at Sacred Heart went to Mohegan Sun Casino to watch our men's basketball team face our cross town rivals Fairfield.  While the game was closely contested, it was the after-game activities that stick in my head.  Being able to be in a spot such as Mohegan Sun where there are casino, nightclubs, restaurants and bars, and being able to share that experience with some of your fellow classmates is an amazing feeling.  I got to spend time with people who I've known since Freshman year but haven't really gotten to hang out with as much as I'd like.  You know as you grow up and experience different things in life, you come across moments that hold signficance far beyond any grade you receive,  or project you spend hours upon hours doing.  There's moments that come to define being young and alive and free.  Nights like Saturday night will live on far beyond a college degree and first time jobs.  Those moments that you can spend with friends and classmates are the nights that live on and on.  The little moments are the most special. 

So Remember the journey is the destination, and as Ferris Bueller once said, " Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." Until next time I'm out

 

-Sean

Final Post

So who can believe that the school year for 2007-2008 is over?  I know I can't.  My freshman year of college moved faster than I can even imagine and the fact that my summer starts in 9 days is unbelievable.  I've had so many great memories from my freshman year, that and I have grown tremendously.  I thought it'd be cool to reflect on some of the highs and lows of the last year and attempt get all of you who ready for what you'll be in store for next year. 

Upon arriving on campus, I was as nervous as everyone else, and wasn't sure if I was gonna be able to survive the first week.  Luckily I sought out friends I made during Orientation week in June and was able to feel slightly comfortable around them.  Along with people I made friends with on my floor, I attended the freshman events during the first week of school, and I have to say this honestly made things soo much better.  I know that my roommate didn't attempt to make friends or go to these events and needless to say, he transfered after 4 days at school. 

For the rest of the first semester I adjusted to the academic side of college, and tried out all different sorts of things.  Hanging in peoples' rooms, going out to clubs, and going into Fairfield.  All in all it allowed me to hang with different groups of people and see what suited me best.  During this time period I was lucky to have my own room because my roommate transfered.  I honestly think this was a blessing in disguise because it allowed me to adjust to college life without having to adjust to living with another person. 

Once Second Semester started and I was more adapted to the college lifestyle I had the chance to adapt to living with a roommate.  After the brief process of getting to know the different tendencies of one another, we adapted well, and I have to say it was nice living with someone else, and having those inside jokes that only roommates understand.  Of course the second semester wasn't all smooth sailing.  College, and for that matter life is never smooth sailing.  I ran into some road bumps, academically, socially, and personally, but overall that's what made my college experience.  That's what defines who you ultimately become. Experience, mistakes, success; all of it helps you grow, and honestly more than the academics, college is about shaping you for who you'll be for the rest of your life. My freshman year has definitely helped carve me, and I have to say three more years of this stuff sure isn't gonna be too bad  :)!!!!

It's been a pleasure writing for you all and I Hope that my blogs have entertained and given insight not only to Sacred Heart but to the whole process of growing up.  Thank you all for reading

Sean

The Game of Baseball

The game of baseball is one that is truly a passion and a love.  How else do you explain playing 9 inning games Friday, Saturday and Sunday?  This weekend my life was consumed with Club baseball and I have to say that I'm bone tired, yet happy with how my weekend was spent. 

On Friday the guys of the Pioneers Club Baseball team gathered at the Pitt Center at 3pm for a brief pep talk before we all packed up and made our way out to Hofstra University.  After scoring 25 runs on Hofstra in our first meeting, the feeling heading into the game was one of extreme confidence.  After a long journey across the Throgs Neck Bridge and on the Cross Island Expressway, The Pioneers(all 10 of us) took the field and were set to play.  As stated Hofstra didnt' necessarily pose a large challenge to the bats and pitching of the Pioneers.  At the conclusion of the game, the Pioneers packed back up the car, and left Wantaug Park with an 18-4 victory.  Personally I managed to muster a dominate performance of 1-1 with a staggering 5 BBs. 

Saturday was much of the same as Central Connecticut made its way down to Beardsley Park to play Sacred Heart in a 9 inning game.  The Bats once again showed up for the Pioneers as the final score ended up being 22-2.  Bottom line for Me: 2-5 with two singles. 

Sunday's game took the Pioneers out to Brooklyn for a double Header at NYU.  After pushing the start time back due to impending rain, Sacred Heart was able to arrive at American Legion Field in just about 2 hours.  The game itself was competitive which was a nice change for once, however the bats for Sacred Heart just didn't show up.  We ended up losing both games of the double header, and driving back two hours after two loses is not fun. 

All in all I'm completely exhausted from playing so many games this weekend, but I have to say it was a lot of fun spending the weekend with people who share the same passion that I do for baseball.  The car rides and the stops at McDonalds make me realize how important it is to find something to be a part of up here at school, and how rewarding it can be.  I know Sacred Heart is really pushing club sports, and I think it's a great idea because honestly the second semester for me has been so much more enjoyable because I've been able to meet new people and continue to play the game I love; the game of baseball

Stress

Stress.  Funny how a six letter word can set the tone for a person's day, week, month etc.. and determine what type of mood their in.  Stress is an unfortunate part of most everyone's life, and how we deal with it determines how long we live before stress consumes us.  As a college student stress is pretty much as common as the word report.  In fact stress often comes from the word report, but that's a whole nother blog entry in itself.  As I was saying stress if very common in the college world.  All different topic cause stress, but no matter what the root of it is, it's never fun to deal with.  Venting stress in a productive way is probably the best way to deal with it so I figure I"ll be productive and write down why I feel so stressed. 

The last month of my life seems to be one of the most stressful periods I've ever gone through.  In addition to having final exams coming up and housing arrangements for next year, getting a summer job and having to face certain people at home is all weighing pretty heavy on my mind.  As I've written before Final Exams can be pretty stressful in and of themselves, but when you begin to realize that receiving the grade you hope for basically rests solely on this test, the stress gets about 10x worse.  Trying to orgainze everything and remind myself that I'm doing pretty well in these classes and I've paid attention all year settles me a little bit, but still thinking about all raises my blood pressure a good amount.  Housing Arrangements are a stress all in itself.  While the thought of "moving up" in the dorming world is one that is pretty cool, figuring out who's living where and with whom squashes the fun of enjoying your new housing assignments.  I was fortunate enough to land with some very nice people and people I'm friends with, but leading up to all of it was definitely not a fun process.  I guess I feel slightly more relaxed now that the process is over, but still, trying to regroup after the whole process is a bit lengthy. 

As if dealing with stress at school isnt' bad enough, its become that time of the year to arrange summer jobs so I dont' arrive at Sacred Heart University in September as a broke bum. Trying to make calls while up at school and send in applications is no fun process.  On top of this, I have a bartending job lined up at a private swim and tenis club, but the people there are very snoody and I dont' want to spend my summer with people who treat everyone like dirt.  Unfortunately, if I'm unable to find anything else I'll be stuck working at "Club Snoody".  Finally, and probably the most heavy thing weighing in on my mind, is going home this summer.  It will have been two months since my ex-girlfriend and I have seen each other, and when we arrive back home in the summer, we'll definitely be seeing each other since we hang in the same circle of friends.  Its difficult because when we broke up we said we'd try to remain friends, but I think I can speak for every guy and girl here when I say that is nearly impossible.  I'm worried about how it's gonna be when I go back home.  I dont' want it to be awkward because we were best friend when we dated for the year and a half we were together, but I also don't know how it won't be when I know there's definitely something still there between us.  Either way, this, added up with the other three topics I've talked about are all making stress describe my life.

After my large rant here you can all see that I definitely hae things weighing in on my mind.  I have to say though that after writing it all out I definitely feel slightly better.  Tying this all back into explaining the college experience, I have to say that no matter what you do or who you hang out with, or where you end up you'll definitely deal with stress at school.  The main and most important thing is to find an effective way to deal with it, and don't let it boil up to the point where it really effects you.  Talk to peer counselors, friends, a teacher, heck even write it down just so you can vent, even if it's to no one.  Just don't let stress completely take over

Sean

Effective Methods of Studying

I know not the most entertaining, attention grabbing headline, however I figure with finals coming up here at Sacred Heart and probably finals coming your way at high school, it's important to look over study methods and what is most effective.  Obviously study methods differ for everyone, but there are definitely key ways to study while in college.  These are some of the most effective as voted on by well mostly me but a few of my friends as well.

1.) Studying with a Friend

One of the most effective techniques I've found and has definitely saved me on multiple tests this year studying with a friend.  If you can find someone in your class who you know is as dedicated to the work as you are, come test time it will be beneficial to get together and review notes. Sometimes its best just to read over your notes outloud and have someone listen.  Its like teaching yourself the information and having someone there to catch you if you are incorrect somewhere.  Also with a friend, you have the ability to maybe understand information from a different perspective.  For instance if it's a math test, maybe your friend remembers a formula in a way that you never though of.  Having more than one brain in the room definitely plays to your advantage in that situation.

2.) Music Study

Now this may seem like an odd way to studying, and could be very distracting if you need total silence to studying, but sometimes listening to slower paced music quietly can actually help you remember more information.  This probably isn't going to work well with math, but when reading over notes for history or other subject areas, sometimes listening to a song in the background to break the complete silence can help trigger you memory.  It helps to keep you focused and can sometimes even actually help you remember tiny facts when relating it to the song.  I know this idea sounds far fetched, and like I said this definitely isn't for everyone, but it's just a different way to try studying if something isnt' working for you. 

3.) Web-studying

This idea of studying is more for the visual learner, and can really help in retaining a lot of information.  When reviewing your notes, use a piece of printer paper and mapout the information your studying.  If certain things are similar connect them in the web, if they're different denote that in your drawing.  With this method you'd still have to read and review your notes, but upon completing that you'd have a visual representation of what you need to know.  This way once you're done reading you can review your drawing, and "see" the information that you need to know. 

These are just three semi-unique methods that can help you retain the information you need for a final test.  Any other method that you stumble upon and seems to work for you is perfectly fine.  However there are some key things to avoid when studying for finals or any other tests when here at school.

Late Night Studying, is a huge no-no in college.  I know most of you probably use this technique in high school and think you'll be able to use it in college, but come that first test you'll quickly learn that it's not the same.  With classes spaced out over the week, it's not as easy to just studying last minute, because there is much more information present on the tests. 

Skimming and not doing work during the semester. In college you'll have no teacher require you do homework.  It becomes one of the "for your own benefit" type deals, and this often leads students to stumble down the path of not doing it.  Come test time you'll be sorry.  Almost all of the teachers I've had my freshman year have based tests off of homework.  If you do homework and study it for the test you'll be sitting pretty. Not doing the homework is a key to disaster

All in all however whenever and whoever you study with I wish you the best of luck on finals

Sean

Who we are

"...We break
And we bend
Turn it inside out
To take it back
To the start
And through the rising falling apart
We discover who we are..."

As I was sitting in my room the other day I stumbled upon a Lifehouse song entitled, "Who We Are" and I felt inspired to write.  In college we're suppose to discover who we are.  For the first time in many of our lives we're on our own.  We have our parents at home and friends at different schools, but in all honest truth we're at a college campus and told to live our lives and be in control of what we do.  The mere thought of that for so many of us is a mixed bag of emotion. On one hand we're granted independence, but on the other hand we're finally responsible for our own mistakes that have real consequences.  All our lives, or at least for mine, I was always taught to do the right thing, which is definitely a message that should be followed.  However, being out on my own, I've started to realize that sometimes you dont' know what the right thing is to do.    We're put in situations we're no longer are adults there to tell us what's right or wrong.  We are forced to learn it on our own.  We make decisions to do what we think is best for us, and in the process we're gonna make the wrong choice.  There will be consequences for the wrong decisions we make, but that's life.  That's how we learn who we are, or where we need to become a better person.  That's how our parents did it, that's how their parents did it and so on.  Who We Are is determined by what we do.  As Lifehouse says, "We break and we bend....and discover who we are"

--Sean

The Anticipation builds

Now I'm sure the title of this blog has you thinking "what could he be talking about?  The anticipation of finals, the end of school, what?!!!!" Believe it or not the anticipation I"m talking about is Sacred Heart's Spring Semester Concert, which will be in a little over a week.  This concert features Ne-Yo and T-Pain and is a follow up to the amazing Fall Semester Concert featuring Lifehouse.  While Lifehouse was an awesome time(My first concert experience ever) I'm sure T-Pain and Ne-Yo will bring a whole new excitment.  Since the announcement in December, the campus has been buzzing with sheer joy and patiently and anxiously waiting for Aprill 11th to finally arrive.  The night will be one I"m sure I'll never forget as well as the rest of the campus.  Coming to Sacred Heart, I had no idea that they hosted concerts, and when I found out they did, I assumed it would be some small indy artist coming to perform.  I had no idea mainstream bands and singers would be arriving and performing inside the William H. Pitt Center.  It's one of the great things that Sacred Heart does for its students by bringing in popular entertainers and allowing it's student body to come together for a night of enjoyment. 

I figure since I talked about the anticipation of a Spring Concert I should also cover the anticipation building for the end of the year.  My first year of college has definitely provided a great experience, but trust me when I tell you I am looking forward to summer vacation and being able to spend it at home.  No matter how old you get, or what level of schooling you're in summer vacation never looses its luster.  The only problem with this building anticipation is the amount of working pilling up since the year is nearing the end.  This can be the hardest time to get work done because instead of focusing on what's in front of you you're mind becomes fixated on the lures of summer basking in the sun and spending the day at the beach.  In addition the warm weather that usually accompanies spring(which we're still waiting to see on a consistant basis up here in CT) makes it even harder to stay indoors and accomplish work.  The one piece of advice I can give anyone reading this, is to bring your work outside.  Sit on your deck and take in the nice weather and fresh air while still being able to read your book for English class or figure out your math problems.  This maybe hard to do at home, but here at SHU and I'm sure at most colleges getting outside and doing work in the quad or even on the flik patio is an easy task.  It helps kill two birds with one stone. 

Until next time...