Call a friend or relative whom you are close to, but have not had a chance to talk to in a while, and wish him a Happy Valentine's Day. You will be reminded of the people in your life who always stand by you.
Celebrate the fact that you are no longer in a bad relationship. If you recently broke up with someone, the chances are good that you were in a poor relationship. Couples always break up for a reason. You might have been treated poorly, or perhaps the relationship brought out the worst in you. Let go of the sorrow and embrace the fact that you are now open to a good relationship when the opportunity comes around.
Host a singles-only gathering with single family members, friends and co-workers. Invite a few single friends over for a nice dinner and movie or game night. Having a get-together with other singles will remind you that you are not the only person who is not in a relationship. You can all get through the holiday of love by providing support for one another and enjoying a fun evening.
Take time to decide if you are ready to look for a relationship. Ask yourself if you are single because you have been unable to find someone to date, or if you like living the single life. Consider whether you often find yourself longing to be in a relationship, or only when Valentine's Day and other holidays roll around. If it's the latter, you might not really want a relationship. Follow your heart, engage in some self-reflection and you will be able to determine if it's time to start looking for someone new.
Spoil yourself for a change. If you are like most people, you devote your time and energy to everyone and everything while neglecting yourself. Use Valentine's Day as an excuse to appreciate yourself and all you do for others. You do not need to buy yourself traditional Valentine's Day goodies and products. Treat yourself to that sweater you have been admiring at the mall or that new CD you have been meaning to buy. Order in some dinner on Valentine's Day and take a few hours off to pamper yourself.
And if these tips don’t work, if you are feeling more alone and isolated than you would expect, please make an appointment to see one of the counselors at the Wellness Center.